Monday, 4 August 2014

A case of mistaken identity

"So, what do you do?"

"Oh, I'm just a mum," I say, "I do a bit of freelancing on the side. I'm quite involved in the leadership of my local church. Life's a juggling act!" I laugh, breezily.


I'm sorry, I think you've been misled. I think that possibly you might have got caught up in a case of mistaken identity. You're nearly a year down the track at this whole working from home, self-employed business and it's about time you realised something.

You are mother to the most intelligent, beautiful, fun-loving and perceptive 16 month old on the face of the planet.

You are wife to one of the kindest, fun and hard-working men that you have ever met (and he's super cute too!).

You are a self-employed book editor who specialises in the craft industry. You honed your craft in a special interest publishing house, becoming Editor of two national magazines by the age of 25. You are damn good at what you do and you provide a service that people need, because you know what? There's no one out there who does what you do, with your experience, how you do it.

You, along with a team of awesome people, are a pastor of a local church.

Got it?


Do you down-play your achievements in a fit of self-deprecation? What one sentence can you have on stand-by ready for when people ask you 'what you do'?


  1. Sounds like we have a lot in common! Do you do Messy Church? Bets it's awesome with your skills! I never know what to say when people asks me what I do - mum to 7, writer, minister, radio presenter. I say "this and that"

    1. Hi Afra! Great to meet you! Yes, does look like we have lots in common. :) We don't do messy church I'm afraid because a church down the road does it so we'd rather not saturate the community with the same things - but it's a great concept! We have regular family services though which are a bit more interactive and often involve crafts - I'm not sure I'm very good at it though, losing my touch! I will look you up!

  2. Good for you! It took me a lot longer to realise that downplaying oneself was not good for anyone - especially me.

  3. That really is a list of achievements to be proud of lovely. Most people I know play down their good points, it's the curse of the British. Mustn't seem like we're showing off... what a load of crap! We should celebrate our accolades. Fab post #PoCoLo

  4. Thanks guys! I honestly believe that it impossible for us to rise up and be all that we're called to be until we can acknowledge our achievements and realise that we do have gifts and talents that are worth shouting about. It doesn't serve anyone to be self-depracating and I'm trying to be more positive about what I do.

  5. I can totally relate to this! I always just say who I work for, as if my role isn't important. But you have a lot to be proud of, and you are right to give yourself a talking to!


  6. There was an advert years ago on the TV (can't remember what for mind) and a child asked another what their Dad did. Child 1 replied with great pride and details about his Dad's busy office life. Child 2 then asked what their Mum did. "Oh nothing" came the reply followed by images of ALL the things she did in a day - child care, housework, DIY, taxiing, secretary, voluntary work etc etc etc ... yup nothing .... NOT!!!

  7. Brilliant Emily. I have a real stumbling block when it comes to what i do / things i've acheived and I'm totally rubbish at shouting about it. Yet i always feel mega proud of my kids / friends etc with what they do but i never transfer that same excitement into what I do. popping by from #pocolo

  8. Self-deprecation is an easy trap to fall into. It's very 'British' too - we're told never to boast when we're children. This means it can be difficult to sing our own praises when we're older. It sounds like you have many praises to sing about - and you should be rightly proud of each of the achievements you've listed (I'm sure there are others you aren't telling us about, too) xx #PoCoLo

  9. Haha yes, it's very easy to do. Not sure why so many people struggle with this - is it a British thing?


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